Introduction
Note to teachers and parents
Part I – Guiding Principles
1 – Anything they can do, they should do
2 – Don‟t try to get them to like you; earn their respect
3 – Thou shalt not lie
4 – Let them fail
5 – Limits
6 – Find ways to say yes
7 – Initiative and control
8 – Admit your hypocrisies
9 – Role modeling is everything
10 – Apologize for your mistakes
11 – Set high expectations, but not perfection
12 – You really don‟t know best
13 – Wait – most problems solve themselves
14 – Be a back-seat driver
15 – Don‟t take it personally
16 – Talking back is good
17 – Plant seeds
18 – Boundaries and rules
19 – Being there
20 – Consistency
21 – Who owns the group?
22 – Trust
23 – Remember the positive
24 – Turf and communication
Part II – Techniques
25 – Positive-Negative-Positive
26 – Sticks and stones
27 – The power of indirection
28 – Don‟t be the boss
29 – Listening
30 – Ask permission to offer advice
31 – Explore options, but leave the decision with them
32 – Be explicit
33 – Explain every decision
34 – Don‟t yell
35 – Choose your battles
36 – Mistakes and failure
37 – Get help
38 – Group problem solving
39 – Principles of leadership
Part III – Programs and Activities
40 – Creativity
41 – Types of programs
42 – Planning and logistics
43 – Energy levels
44 – Flexibility
Part IV – Topics
45 – Communication skills
46 – Sex, drugs, and rock & roll
47 – Driving
48 – Bad kids and troubled teens
49 – Confidentiality
50 – Playing favorites
51 – Dealing with crisis
52 – Life skills
53 – Working as a team
54 – Taking care of yourself
Part V – For Teachers and Parents
55 – For Teachers
56 – For Parents
57 – For Teens
Final Words
Appendix A – Drivers Handout
Acknowledgements and Dedication
